Happy Monday. I hope you are all doing well.
“When you feel alone, just look at the space between your fingers and remember that’s where my fingers fit perfects.” -Meenakshi K.
There are lots of variables of a long-distance relationship. Some long-distance relationships are only a few hundred Kilometers away and get to visit on occasion. Some relationships are thousand of Kilometers and waiting months for a visit. There is a stigma around long-distance relationships for not working out, but there is also the famous quote that “distance makes the heart more found.” Although both are true, it is about the relationship and the two people involved. It is not easy, but it is doable.
- Know your habits and your partner’s habits.
It is essential to understand what you need in the relationship and what you are willing to give, as well as what your partner needs and is willing to give. If you are not good at communicating over text but enjoy talking on the phone, then you can plan date night calls. It is all about figuring out what works for you and your partner.
It is important to know what you and your partner enjoy doing together, even if it is online. There are many different online games that you can play together or even something like Netflix Party. Binge watch a few of your favourite shows together even when you cannot be together.
- Communicate regularly and plan ahead.
Whether it is just a phone call or a video date, plan ahead with your partner. This will help avoid any miscommunications when you are spending time with each other. It will also give you both something to look forward to.
Communication is extremely important because it is even more challenging to convey your feeling over text, and many people will sometimes say things over text that they may not feel. Make sure to communicate with each other and be honest. Although there is a long distance between you two, there is no room for lies.
- Do things together.
I already mentioned play games on your phone and Netflix party. You can find many other things to do together. You can plan a picnic over a video call, have dinner together, tell stories, go for a walk, attend an online event together, begin a book club together, etc. There are limitless amounts of ideas that you can do together.
- Plan visits together.
This is one of the most exciting parts about long-distance relationships, the finally getting to see each other together. So, plan it. Give yourselves something to look forward to, something to count down on.
When planning your visits, schedule the dates but don’t plan the entire visit. Leave some time for you two to be spontaneous or for you two just to enjoy each other’s presence. It is nice just to watch a movie on the couch and chat, but if you have constant plans, you won’t be able to do that.
- Stay positive and keep a good mindset.
A lot of what I want to remind you is it is about your mindset. Long-distance is likely not going to be easy, but it is doable. You need to prioritize things and plan for things, but know that you two can do it. Think positive thoughts. It can be challenging when you just want to do the other person, but plan a phone call and brighten each other’s days. Although it is hard, you two are there to support each other through it, and communication will help you overcome the challenging days.
Be there for each other. It can be more difficult for one than the other. We all have different life challenges, but even though you guys are miles apart, you support each other is super important. Understand when the other person wants to be there but is unable to because of the distance. Keep a positive mindset and work together with strong communication.
- Don’t put your life on hold when you aren’t together.
Although you and your likely favourite person are miles apart, don’t put your life on hold. Spend time with friends, achieve your goals, focus on yourself, try something new. Don’t forget about all the amazing things that you would be doing if they were here. Keep thriving. It is important not to put your life on hold because we are constantly growing beings, and it will impact your mental health if you just sit around waiting for them to come back.
Well, I hope you have a wonderful week.