“Yes. Growing up is highly overrated. Just be an author.” -Neil Gaiman
I can’t speak enough about how amazing I feel. I woke up this morning, made myself breakfast, and crawled back into bed for breakfast in bed. Honestly, if this is what being a grown-up is all about. I am for it. If you didn’t know, I just finished university and officially got my dream job. I am adulting.
Adulting is a word with so much controversy. Most of us spend so much of our life looking forward to being an adult, having adult money, and being able to make your own decision. Still, when people become adults, most of the time, they realize all of the responsibility surrounding it. There are bills, obligations, and the future. This is when, as Neil Gaiman says, “Growing up [becomes] highly overrated.” The responsibility of being a grown-up looks pretty daunting, and it is for the rest of your life. When I used to think about this, it would make me want to be one of those people who book a flight and never comes home.
However, Neil Gaiman also says, “Just be an author.” I know. Writing isn’t for everyone, but don’t think about this as writing. Think of it as creating. In high school, my life motto was Create your Own Infinity. It is your responsibility to write your own story and make it the way you want it to be. So, take your life, your adulting, your responsibilities, and make them your own. Create a life that you believe you will be proud of when it is all said and done.
How do you create your infinity?
- Know Yourself:
I am sure that I say this in nearly every blog post I make, but you need to know yourself to be your best self. You are constantly growing and changing with every experience that you have, so although you are the person that may know you the best, it is hard sometimes to know yourself. It is essential to continually be analyzing your habits to understand your habits, priorities, and goals.
- Know What Makes You Happy:
Everyone has different passions and things that make them happy. For example, reading, writing, travelling, and teaching are a few things that make me the happiest. So, although these might not be what makes you super happy, find the things that make you happy and incorporate them into your life. If you aren’t doing things that make you happy, adulting isn’t going to be fun. It is going to feel draining and repetitive. Doing the things that make you happy will make you feel like you are a child again, and you are living your best life.
- Do Activities for You:
This is a bit more complicated than it sounds because you should still do things for other people. However, it is about prioritizing. You need to prioritize your needs over someone else’s wants. Your dreams, passions, and ambitions are important and should be high on the priority scale. You can still do things for other people, but you need to consider how it impacts your life. If it is something that makes you complete, don’t do it. If it is something that makes you happy, then it is an activity for you.
- Set Goals:
You need to know where you are going if you would like to achieve something. So, set goals for yourself to accomplish along the way and celebrate these goals. They are each one step closer to you doing what makes you happy. If you end up realizing that this isn’t what you want to do anymore, then make a realistic plan for you to be able to set new goals to achieve another passion.
I hope you all have a great week and have some time to think about yourself and your dreams. Create your own infinity. You are amazing and can do anything you set your mind to it. So, write your own story.
– Caitlin ❤
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