Happy Monday You!
“You can’t find your passion thinking about it in your head.” – Marie Forleo
At points in my life, I felt like there wasn’t much to live for. I had nothing that made me happy, and I no idea where I was going with my life. This only changed when I realized my worth and my passions. I realized that I might never be perfect, but as long as I give my best and continue trying, anything is possible.
I needed to find the things that make me happy. It took time, and I really had to get to know myself. I had to stop comparing myself and my passions to other people. I need to accept that I am different from everyone else.
So, how do you find your passion?
You have to know yourself.
You could be thinking that you already know yourself. However, you are constantly changing, growing and evolving, so getting to know yourself is a constant commitment. So, here is my guide on finding your passion while finding yourself.
Step One: Learn to be Alone.
This can be one of the hardest things to do when you are first getting to know yourself. It can feel lonely. Because we are social creatures, it can be really challenging for many of us to be left to our own company. Some can hand it very well, but if you are anything like I was, then it would be extremely hard.
The hardest part for me was learning that I wasn’t lonely just because I was alone. I didn’t know how to spend my time by myself because I had no idea what I liked to do. When I was alone, I felt like all I had to do was think about the negative things in my life.
Although I do sit and think/meditate, they are more positive and valuable thoughts rather than the negative thoughts that I was experiencing previously. By learning to spend time with yourself, you are learning to love yourself and understanding what you truly love to do without anyone else’s opinions.
Step Two: Step outside of your usual routine.
If you haven’t already found something that you love and that inspires you, then try something new or try something that you haven’t done in a long time.
If my previous blogs are not evident enough, I have a passion for books. When I was younger, I read all the time. I remember my Aunt would always buy me books for Christmas because she knew how much I loved to read. As I grew up and went off to high school, I lost that excitement for reading and got lost in finding myself. I completely lost my passion for reading.
For about 4 or 5 years, I never read any books aside from the ones I had to for school. In my second year of University, I was forced to read 1984 by George Orwell for my English class. It reunited my passion. After that book, I remembered what it was like to have something that made me happy and allowed me to grow. Books made me feel like I had a purpose again. They made me believe in myself and understand my ambition and dreams.
So, if I didn’t return to this old passion that I had in elementary school, I probably would not be where I am today, living my best life. Yeah, maybe, I would be on another amazing path, but am I ever glad that I found my passion for reading.
Step Three: Just because you aren’t the best, don’t give up.
I cannot count the number of times I wanted to give up on writing because I knew that I wasn’t the best. I knew that there would always be someone better, so why was it worth trying. I would always discourage myself from chasing after my writing dreams because I knew that my grammar wasn’t the best, my vocabulary wasn’t enormous, and that I wasn’t as talented as Stephen King or J.R.R. Tolkien.
You need to remind yourself that there are people that are extremely talented and hard-working, but you don’t need to be them. They aren’t all talented in the same ways. You have your own ideas, your own passions, and your own take on every different thing. So, why not follow your passion? You are enough even if you aren’t the best because no one is the best. There will always be someone better.
Share your passion. Fall in love with yourself. You are amazing.
I hope you all have a wonderful week.
Photo by Natalia Y