I think it is fair to assume that a lot of us will be spending Valentine’s Day at home this year (thank you pandemic), which means that if you have kids, February 14 will be less about couple time and more about family time. So let’s talk about ways to make it a special day for everyone!
If your child is a newborn:
In this category, your baby won’t be much of a participant in the day, other than their daily rituals of eat, sleep, cry, and dirty diapers.
- Try spending moments while the baby is content talking to each other, away from your phones or any distractions. In this parenting stage, it is so easy to want to check out and numb your mind during down time, but I think connecting with your partner is a great act of love you could do on Valentine’s Day.
- While the baby is sleeping, try to do something special for the other person. Maybe you draw them a bath with candles, give them a foot rub, or make them a yummy treat!
- Write a letter to each other at the beginning of the day about something that will make them feel loved, and agree to exchange them at the end of the day.
This phase involves a lot of “going with the flow”. Don’t stress the day, and try not to focus on it being perfect. Little acts of love towards your partner add up, and make the day special- no matter what.
If your child is a toddler:
Things are starting to get fun now. Your little one will be full of energy and eager to be near you throughout the day.
- Get messy! Make homemade play dough, slime or foam paint (pinterest is flooded with recipes to all of these) and get right in there with them! The messier the better!
- Make a fort! Your toddler will LOVE this! Bonus: if they like to read books with you, do storytime here for the day, or even better, watch a movie!
Fair warning: drink as much coffee as possible, because you will need energy!
If your child is pre-K to grade 5:
This age group has a degree of independence, but they still like to come to the mom and dad party 🙂
- Crafts, crafts, and more crafts. You really can’t have enough. Set up a little station of goodies and create for hours on end! If you find you don’t have much around the house, try colouring contests instead. Make sure you join in on the fun!
- Bake Valentine’s Day treats together. My personal favourite is sugar cookies with icing- you can never go wrong with that one! (If you don’t have a heart cookie cutter, put your icing in a ziploc bag and cut off ⅛” on one of the corners, and make designs with that instead!
Your little ones will never want to leave home after these activities!
If your child is grade 6 to 12:
Teens may avoid you on a day like this. However, you can still find a way to reach their soft spot.
- Ask them to recommend their favourite movie for everyone to watch.
- Play it old school with board games- they always spark excitement!
- Give them the responsibility of making supper for the family. As much as this sounds like work, they will appreciate the fact you trust them to make you feel satisfied and special. You are giving them control- every teenager’s dream.
Acts of love towards this age group can sometimes be tricky to navigate. The key is to try to put yourself in their shoes. Leave the cheesy stuff to the young ones 😉
Valentine’s Day is a day of love, no matter if you are single, married, or have a family. Find ways to incorporate whomever it is that is included in your household. Make it a carefree, fun day, and include some smiles, because you can never go wrong with that 🙂
- Jess 🙂
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