Finding a life partner is easily one of the most desirable things we want to experience in our life. If you don’t believe me, try to find a movie that doesn’t have at least one ounce of romance in it…
We are wired for connection. We long to be loved on an unconditional level.
My husband and I are going on 3 years married, and although that doesn’t seem like much experience, I think the ingredients to a healthy and happy marriage are the same across the board.
I don’t consider myself an expert by any means. However, I will share with you the ways that my husband and I keep our relationship strong.
My husband and I are fortunate enough to have the same type of humour. While this
may not always be the case, find ways to laugh together whether that be watching movies, playing board games, cooking in the kitchen or sharing funny memes. Laughter is the best medicine, and it creates a bond of friendship amongst your romantic relationship.
If you haven’t read Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages yet, it is definitely one to add to your list! We each interpret the act of love differently, so how you may be expressing love may not be how your partner receives love. When you speak their “language” love wise, you will begin to understand the other person’s needs.
This is something that sets your spousal relationship apart from any other, so it is VERY important. It is truly an act of love to your partner. When intimacy isn’t present, it is difficult to feel close to the other person. If this is something that you struggle with in your relationship, try to figure out how to resolve it, because avoiding it is not a healthy solution. (A great scripture that speaks to this is 1 Corinthians 7- 3:4)
It doesn’t matter how compatible you are, you will have differences with your spouse. The only way to avoid it is to stay single. Respect shows your partner that you trust them and value them for who they are. You need to have a level of respect for the other person in order to move forward in love.
For my husband and I, this is the glue. Not every couple will agree with this, but it is important to have something outside of your relationship that can guide you, especially when things get tough. It can be so easy to be selfish and focus on our own best interests in the midst of disagreements. Faith allows us to put our bias aside and lean on God’s word, setting us free from control and gratification of the flesh, trusting that God knows best. He is our source. If you need an answer, He provides it.
Marriage is a gift from God- one that we should honour and cherish.
The 5 ingredients above are a great start to make your partnership flourish.
I will end this post with probably the most commonly known verse in the bible, but yet, probably the most beautiful, and one we shouldn’t forget.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
I’m praying for you friend!
- Jess 🙂