What feeling comes to mind when you hear the word “change”? For me, the feeling I get is scary enough to include in this month’s Halloween theme. I like predictability, and most commonly, that’s not something linearly related to change.
One change that comes to mind that I’ve experienced is becoming a first time mom. Not to say that I was naive when it came to having to adjust to what would become my new normal; I had anticipated that my life would be different. But to actually live it was something different all together.
In the midst of that first year with a new baby, life was fuzzy and I was mostly trying to navigate the storm. However, now that I have adjusted and adapted to my new way of life, I can look back and see how to really conquer changes we face in life.
My 5 tips to dealing with change:
- Give Yourself Grace
When you embark on anything new in life, do you expect you will be an expert right away?
For me, the sad part is yes, I do. I want to work at optimal efficiency like a well-oiled machine. The realistic part is, I’m ridiculous. I put way too much pressure on myself.
The fact is we will only begin to adapt to something with time and practice. Stop beating yourself up, and start lifting yourself up. There is a reason the phrase “one step at a time” exists.
- Determine At Least One Positive
As you are going through something, and you begin to feel overwhelmed, it can be really hard to not think about what is weighing you down. We naturally gravitate to the pain that we are feeling. That process is thanks to our brain being in autopilot mode.
Flip the switch! TAKE CONTROL! Did you know YOU have power over your thoughts? Take the initiative to pick out at least one positive thing to be grateful for in whatever moment you find yourself in. Whatever you focus on grows, so if it’s pain, it will keep getting worse.
- Recognize Your Resilience
Can I tell you something? YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU KNOW!
My prayer for you is to see how amazingly capable you are of handling what life throws at you. You will get through it. You may not feel comfortable, or enjoy it, but you WILL come out on the other side. Not only that, but you will get stronger every time! I’ve said this before, but the best part is, that you’re never alone. God is with you- HE is your strength, so whatever it is that you’re battling, you already have the victory! (You also have me cheering you on- I believe in you! 🙂 )
- Take Your Focus Off Forever
Everything, and I mean everything, on Earth is temporary (I hate to be morbid, but
even we are temporary). This is good news though. This means that with each rainy day, month or year, it will be followed by sunshine. Whatever your state is right now, it won’t be that way forever.
- Do Something Everyday You Enjoy
We live life day by day, so the best thing you can do is determine something that you
can do each day to refill your tank. That may be a bath, working out, journaling, watching your favourite TV show, or chatting with a loved one. You need to actively take care of yourself, or your circumstances will begin to control you instead of the other way around.
It is easy to forgo priorities in our life because we don’t “feel” like it. Friend, you don’t have to feel like doing something to do it. Override your feelings, and use instinct. Trust yourself. You know what you need. You know what is right.
Change is part of life. It is inevitable. But believe you have what it takes to power through it!
“It is not the strongest of species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change” – Charles Darwin
I’m cheering you on!! ❤
- Jess 🙂
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