Chain Reaction

Ironically enough, the day I’m writing this blog post, I had a bad day. 

And you know how I handled it?…

I made it worse. Overwhelmed by my circumstances, I resorted to the one thing I CAN control, and that is picking my skin. It didn’t make me feel better by the way. In fact, I’m sitting in front of my computer screen with a charcoal face mask…sounds glamorous (or maybe scary lol), but it’s really not, because when I take it off, I will be faced with the consequences of my decisions. 

Isn’t that how it goes? We have something that we resort to when things feel like they’re getting out of hand. When we “can’t take it anymore”, we crave the one thing that gives us relief from our current reality. Maybe it’s alcohol, food, or TV. Hard truth is: it doesn’t help. When the “buzz” wears off, your life will still be there…

Unfortunately, bad days aren’t going anywhere, so we have to figure out how we are going to tackle them. In the moment, this is a very hard thing to do. Emotions kick in, and the brain goes into protective mode. Our brain is specifically wired to keep us safe. Convenient for moments we encounter a bear…not so convenient when the milk jug spills all over the floor, supper is burning, and your baby is crying all at the same time (not speaking from experience of course 😉 ). Enter: initial reaction = frustration, which then leads to emotion which is anger, resulting in you blowing up in front of your family, for something that really isn’t a big deal. BUT, what if instead of letting that programming happen, we stop it on it’s onset, and then force the brain to change the script. Instead, we can think: okay, whether I freak out or not, I have to clean this up, so I may as well use my energy to clean up. I have bread to make toast for supper tonight for a quick fix, and my baby screaming is just his way of communicating because he can’t talk. 


I was watching a video by Dr. Shannon Irvine the other day (if you haven’t heard of her, look her up!). She is a doctor in neuroscience, and she explains the importance of understanding that you are in control of your own thoughts. You don’t have to accept whatever pops into your head. The bad day you’re having doesn’t have to ruin your life. You can CHOOSE positive thoughts. Our thoughts create our reality. If we hover in the frustration and anger of those bad moments, they will overflow into every other area of our life. Our jobs are affected, our families, our health…there is a ripple effect that occurs from every action we take. We may not see it immediately, but over time, everything adds up. 

So I’m going to take this face mask off, own up to my actions, repair the damages as best I can, and take it one step at a time. A bad day is not a bad life. We have so much to be thankful for. 

At this very moment, I’m thankful for YOU! Thank you for taking the time to read our posts. You don’t know how much it means to us!

Sending hugs through the computer screen!

  • Jess 🙂

2 thoughts on “Chain Reaction

  1. Wow! This one really spoke to me Jess, you are such a talented writer. I can relate to this so much as I find it really easy to be a reactive person, specifically a reactive parent. I often turn to chocolate or tv to numb the situation or the strong feelings. I am trying to take a moment to “pause” before reacting. I find that “pause” is something that is easy to remember when my mind may not be able to rationally think through a situation in the heat of the moment. Hopefully, eventually, it might help me have the positive reaction that benefits everyone instead. Thanks for brightening my day!


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