I have a bittersweet relationship with routine. I like it because predictability is comfortable, and I feel like I am in control. However, things don’t always go according to plan- I am a mom to a one year old toddler after all.
When I was single, I was all about schedules. I would wake up, read my devotionals, make breakfast, get ready, go to work, workout, and have supper. Like a well oiled machine, this was my plan day-in and day-out.
Enter marriage, and a new routine is formed. Now you work as a team to form your daily habits, and sometimes you have to adjust your own agenda in order to do what is best for all parties.
Now add a baby into the mix, and well, it’s complicated.
My biggest tip for the mommas out there, or really anyone struggling to “balance” day-to-day life, is to write it down. Get a cute day planner and plan the heck out of your days. Then- now this is the kicker- let it go. Put the most important thing (just one!) that needs to get done on the top of your list, and the rest is simply a bonus. In the first couple years of your baby’s life, they will be your #1 priority. If everything else has to wait, so be it. Don’t put pressure on yourself to accomplish a million and one things in this season of your life. And that’s exactly what it is; a season. As time goes on, they will develop more independence, and you will start to have more time on your hands.
Another thing I’ve learned is that babies do well with routine, but it doesn’t have to go perfectly. If they miss a nap because you need to meet your friend for coffee to get some social interaction, it will be OKAY! I promise! 🙂
I’ve learned that routine is not cut and dry. When you make it that way, you put a lot of pressure on yourself, and then you start to dread it. I know it’s hard to let go, especially if you have goals and dreams you want to achieve. However, the truth is, life is a series of taking it one day at a time.
Give yourself grace! Surrender your control to God, and then do your best. Know that we are humans, not robots, and life will go on whether you check off your to-do list or not, or whether your day went perfectly or was a complete mess.
The way I see it is: if at the end of the day I have loved people and God, then it is a good day!
I am sending hugs through the computer screen- whether you want them or not 🙂
Until next time
- Jess 🙂
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